A simple answer to both questions is when you have respect and are respected you'll understand.
The long answer is far more involved, however it basically boils down to thinking of the people around you and then treating them as though they are you.
If you lack respect for those around you then you don't respect yourself. Respect starts with ones self. If you present yourself as a respected and respectful human others will respect you as well.
This is a widely inclusive concept, encompassing far more then you may thing. You the littlist things, all the way to the largest most important. You see when you use the toilet at a gas station, leaving a mess, you are presenting yourself as being completely lacking of respect, but not toward the station, or the others that have to use it, but yourself.
Without selfrespect, you are nothing. That is respect and why you should have some.
